IN WHICH I TALK ABOUT IMPOSTER SYNDROME

Thursday, August 11, 2022

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I have big time imposter syndrome. 

Actually after finishing this book I was reading called Continuing the Ride (this week's Book Talk Tuesday book) and then talking with my therapist last week I have come to the realization that I essentially have zero self confidence in almost anything including things that logically I know I am good at and excel at. 

I wondered where this self confidence had gone, and I wanted to talk about ways to deal with my anxiety. My therapist suggested that because of my abusive relationships in the past I had lost my self confidence and my mind immediately went to physical abuse. 

Then we talked about how my ex essentially belittled me over everything down to making fun of how my handwriting looks and the fact that my hair is super straight. I'm still self conscious about my handwriting and my hair. The biggest thing he did was tell me I needed to sell my horses and give up my barrel racing dream. He reinforced this repeatedly over the years by circumventing every opportunity I had to swing a leg over a horse, and would tell me I needed to stop even watching it because I would never make it. 

The crazy thing is that he never even saw me ride! 

But now I have the biggest imposter syndrome. And it does not help that there are mean girls everywhere in this sport. I know logically that I can ride. I know logically that I used to be really good. That little voice though....boy oh boy is it loud or what?

When I was in grad school for my literature degree we discussed imposter syndrome and how it affects women more often than men. I guess it's just another way the misogyny holds us back. 

Anyway, all of this to say that I have such imposter syndrome, but I am going to be working through it and my anxiety. I will be posting about it on my social media, and I hope to do a 30 day challenge with ALL OF YOU so that we can work on some stuff together! So stay tuned. 

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BOOK TALK TUESDAY: CONTINUING THE RIDE

Tuesday, August 9, 2022

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Continuing The Ride: Rebuilding Confidence from the Ground Up: McDonald,  Crissi: 9781732825833: Amazon.com: Books

I always try to be reading at least one non-fiction book at a time in a topic that interests me. Lately I've been wanting to increase my confidence specifically with riding my horses. 

This book follows the story of the author after she had a TBI (traumatic brain injury) from her horse flipping on her. She tells us her background with horses and the steps she followed to getting back on another horse after her injury. 

I liked this book, and I think it's important to remember that she is talking about this from her personal perspective while also quoting experts that she found helped her on her way. I got a little frustrated thinking well I lost my confidence from no horse wreck at all. But she also talks about compounded trauma, which I asked my therapist about and is something we are going to work through. 

The book is her first book as an author, and there is a lot more telling rather than showing. But it's also a non-fiction and not written as a literary non-fiction. I think it could have been stronger by her showing us these stories rather than reciting them, but the overall point was there. 

I think this book could be helpful to anyone struggling with confidence issues, but specifically at people who have had a horse wreck which is causing them to feel less confident. 

Check out my mini review of it on my instagram story highlight "books"! And follow me for more mini book reviews over there! 





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